How to Shift Your Mindset from a Fixed Mentality to a Growth Mentality

 

How to Build Unshakeable Confidence from the Inside Out.

Your healing journey is not about becoming someone new.

Your healing journey is about remembering who you’ve always been beneath the pain and beyond the fear.

Your healing journey is about building your self-confidence, uplifting your self-esteem, and tuning into the your core values, aligning more firmly with those and creating your life consciously with wisdom and intention, one compassionate step at a time.  

Below are five guiding pillars to help you strengthen these from within, with real-life examples you can relate to and practice in your own healing journey.

1. Owning Your Story, Without Shame

Your past does not define you.  How you honor it can empower you.

Many people believe they must hide their past obstacles to be accepted.

When you’re on a healing journey, you’ll want to embrace the experiences – as painful as they may be – and recognize the value in the lessons you learned from them.  By turning those stories into parables and find the value in them to bring forth and even uplift others, you’ll find incredible power in them

Your story – the path you’ve travelled, the lessons you’ve learned – are incredible sources of empowerment and strength. You’ve overcome.  And you’re a better, stronger, more resilient and resourceful version of yourself – because of what you’ve come through.

You’re wiser.  You’re a survivor.  

When you allow yourself to share what you’ve been through and most importantly – what you’ve learned and whom you’ve become because of overcoming it, the pain and hurt you’ve experienced melts away – because you’re a survivor. 

And you now have important, invaluable information to share.  Your experience can empower and uplift others.

For many years, I felt embarrassed about being in foster care. I kept it hush-hush and was ashamed to share about those experiences.  They were incredibly horrific to be completely honest. In fact, just returning to those dark places in my mind along brought intense feelings of shame and feeling helpless. 

Through my own healing journey, however, I learned that surviving that experience built my resiliency and resourcefulness, taught me incredible lessons about adaptability, problem solving, relationship building, gratitude, and courage.

Today, I am proud of how I overcame it, and even thrived through it.  Those lessons have served me well my entire life.

Confidence grows when shame loosens its grip and if I can survive, and thrive… I know you can too.  Whatever is going on in your life, whatever hardships you’re enduring, or challenges you’re overcoming – those circumstances are temporary.  They have not come to stay – they have come to pass. 

2. Truly Listening—To Others and to Yourself

Confidence deepens when you learn to slow down and truly listen.

You may have spent months or even long years being unheard, dismissed, devalued or made to feel worthless.

When you’re on a healing journey, you’ll want to tune in deeply to your inner voice, your intuition is deeply rooted in your core values. 

Begin to question what you hear, challenge your own thoughts and feelings to search for the messages from your heart, from your soul and recognize how that inner voice is guiding you to more, to better, to solutions that you can apply in your life that’ll make a difference for you. 

Taking time to quietly listen intently to your inner voice with the intention of understanding your own thoughts, feelings and emotions you’ll begin to deepen the relationship of trust you have with yourself, and trust is the foundation of your own self-esteem.

Listening to others with the intention of understanding them, without interrupting or planning your response, creates a meaningful, unshakable connection with that person.  One that’ll be truly treasured among your friends, colleagues and especially, your family. 

3. Building Self-Esteem Through Daily Healing Practices

Self-esteem is not arrogance. It’s a quiet knowing that you are worthy.  

Healing practices anchor this belief into your nervous system.

• Daily meditation to ground your emotions and calm your mind.
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  Looking into the mirror each morning and saying, ‘I love you.’ ‘You’re going to have an amazing day.’  ‘You’re going to light up 10 people’s lives today.’ May feel uncomfortable at first, but positive self-talk is a powerful life success strategy practiced by professionals at the top of their game and high-level competitive athletes. Plus… it works! 
• Overcoming a challenge in the day.  A recent example: Driving through a snowstorm with confidence.  Not rushing, not panicking. Trusting yourself to take your time and arrive safely.  
  

Self-esteem grows when you maintain a ‘Can Do’ Attitude (you’re gearing up for success immediately with your attitude choice) and your actions consistently say, “I have my own back.”

4. Building Confidence by Moving Through Fear Gently

Confidence is built through experience, not pressure.

You don’t have to face your fears all at once. When you’re on a healing journey, you’ll move forward slowly and safely.

Here’s a real life example to adapt:  If you fear water, you don’t jump into the deep end.

1.     Start with sitting on the edge of the pool dangling your feet in. 

2.     Next, sit on the stairs and notice how your body feels as you allow the water to engulf more of it.  Move into the shallow end.

3.     Use a floatie as you venture into the deep end. Flutter your way back to the shallow end when you feel you must

4.     Back to the deep end you go – and learn to support yourself and remain buoyant on the deeper water when your feet no longer touch – it’s not scary – you can float on the surface.

5.     When you feel confident, dive under.  Use a mask and explore a whole new world.  Very exciting.

Let your body learn that it’s safe.

Each small step builds confidence and self-esteem.

Confidence grows when your nervous system learns that you can face discomfort and still be okay.

5. Living by Your Unique Values, Even Through Life’s Challenges

Your values are your internal compass. When you live by them, confidence becomes unshakable.

Examples of values in healing:

• Integrity: staying true to yourself, even when it’s uncomfortable.
• Self-compassion: choosing kindness over self-criticism.
• Trust: believing that things will work out, even during uncertainty.

Conquering an obstacle in life, and there will be obstacles that come up – that’s just life, requires trust, resilience, and faith too – faith in yourself that you’ll overcome it.  And you will.  You have incredible resources to draw from – your past experiences, your inner strength and today – the knowledge and past experiences (and the lessons they learned) are right at your fingertips – you can learn virtually anything you need to know with the power of technology.

Staying confident through your healing journey includes believing that no matter the challenge, you’ll face it with strength and grace – and you’ll win.

When your values lead, fear loses control.  As you build self-confidence, self-esteem, and live by your unique values, remember:

• To be proud of all you’ve overcome – that journey that brought you to where you are now – those lessons are invaluable.  USE them.
• To take your time.  Like learning, healing is a lifelong practice – always striving to become the very best you can be
• To believe in your heart that it’s going to be OK.  No matter how bad it is or how bad it gets – what you’re going through has not come to stay – it has come to pass – and the lessons the experience has brought to you are FOR you.  What can you take from it?  What can you learn from it?  What has it brought you to grow from.

Your healing journey is unfolding exactly as it should—one brave step at a time.

You are stronger than you think.  You are worthy.  YOU are light, love and  inspiration.

 

My Gift For You

If you’d like some personalized guidance along Your Healing Journey, I’d love to chat.

Please reach out to me privately at yourhealingjourney58@gmail.com OR find me on FB https://www.facebook.com/yourhealingjourneytrishosborne to schedule a complimentary 

‘Your Healing Journey’ Breakthrough Call.

This is a free offer to connect.  There’s no obligation for us to work together. We’ll discuss your unique circumstances, what you’d like to overcome and achieve and by the end of our time together you’ll have:

1.     Crystal Clarity with simple steps and solutions to make a difference in your life

2.     Tools and resources to help you move forward confidently

3.     A customized Action Plan designed just for you – what to do next on Your Healing Journey to wellness and happiness.

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Trish Osborne is a Certified Integrative Life Coach, Founder of Your Healing Journey, and the Host of a forever-free Facebook Community of the same name.

It’s her mission to help women leave past hurts and traumas in the dust (where they belong), recover from their pain, boldly embrace their unique talents and gifts, and design the life they truly desire - one full of passion and purpose, confidence and freedom.

 

With a proven, step-by-step process to recovery and life success, Trish offers a customized coaching experience designed with each individual client collaboratively and with a holistic approach to healing the mind, the body and the soul too.

 

Trish would be delighted if you’d join her free ‘Your Healing Journey’ Facebook Community https://www.facebook.com/groups/yourhealingjourneywithtrish where she shares her best solutions and strategies for living a life full of confidence and joy.