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How To Master Your Time For Your Healing Journey

 

When you’re navigating your way through a healing journey, time management becomes more than just organizing your day.  Managing your time becomes a way of protecting your peace, honouring your growth, and showing yourself the love you deserve.

For many of us, especially those who’ve spent years putting others first, healing requires reshaping how we use our time. Not every invitation, obligation, or request deserves space on your calendar.

Instead, try aligning your days with what matters most: your core values.

Here’s how time management can be a powerful healing tool on your healing journey.

1. Start With Your Core Values

Your core values are the non-negotiables of your life, the things that truly matter to you.
Examples may include:

• Family
• Peace
• Health
• Connection
• Growth
• Faith
• 
  Integrity

Once you identify your core values, you can ask yourself before committing to anything:
Does this support my values, or does it drain me?

When I was starting my own deeper healing work, I realized I was saying “yes” to too many things out of guilt, fear of disappointing others, or simply habit. I wasn’t honouring my values. Instead, I was honouring other people’s expectations.  

Now, my values are the filter. If it doesn’t align, it doesn’t get my time.

2. Prioritize What Actually Matters

Urgent and important are not the same thing.

Many things feel urgent—messages, requests, family drama, someone else needing something “right now.”

But healing has taught me to pause and ask: Is this actually important? Or is it just loud?

What is important?

• My peaceful mornings
• My healing practices
• Quality time with my grandsons
• Coaching sessions
• Rest
• Movement
• Time with people who pour into me, not take from me

When you protect the important things first, there is way less space for things that drain you.

3. Practical Tools: Calendars, Colour Coding, & Planning

One of my most grounding practices is keeping a calendar, offline and online.

Here’s how I manage it:

🌈 Colour-Coding My Calendar

I use a paper calendar, and every area of my life gets its own colour:

• Work – one colour
• Play / Joy / Rest – another colour
• Appointments – another
• Family Time – another

Immediately, I can see if my month looks balanced—or if I’m slipping back into old patterns of over-giving and over-doing.

When I see too much “work” colour and not enough “joy,” that’s a sign I need to readjust.

📱 Phone Calendar for What’s Essential

Anything important—appointments, reminders, time blocks—goes into my phone calendar too.
This helps me:

• Never double book myself
• Honour my commitments
• Protect my energy
• Avoid overwhelm

It becomes a boundary tool, not just a planning tool. 

4. Learning to Say No (Without Guilt)

Saying “no” is time management.
It’s emotional management.
It’s boundary management.
And it’s one of the highest forms of self-respect.

On my healing journey, I had to learn to say ‘No’ to:

• Last-minute requests that disrupt my peace
• People who only come around when they need something
• Events or obligations that drain my energy
• Being the “fixer” for everyone else’s problems

A few examples from my own life:

• I used to say yes to family things even when I was exhausted. Now, I say, “I can’t this time, but thank you for thinking of me.”
• I used to take on too much work. Now I ask myself: “Does this support my values or is it just people-pleasing?”
• I used to feel guilty saying no. Now I feel guilty when I betray myself.

Healing teaches you that “no” isn’t rejection—it’s redirection back to your values.

5. Don’t Let People Take Advantage of Your Time

This is a big one.
When you don't manage your time, others will manage it for you.

Examples of self-protection:

• If someone constantly asks for favours but is never there for you, it’s okay to say, “I’m not available for that.”
• If someone shows up unannounced or expects you to drop everything, it’s okay to say, “This time doesn’t work for me.”
• If someone becomes angry when you set a boundary, that’s proof the boundary was needed.  
  

Healing means realizing you are not responsible for everyone’s comfort—but you ARE responsible for your own well-being.

6. Make Time for What Heals You

Your ability to manage your time effectively can positively contribute to your healing journey when you intentionally creating space for the things that fill you up or light up your soul.

For me, this looks like:

• Quiet mornings
• Time with my grandsons
• Walks with my dog
• Learning something new
• Connecting with women on the same journey
• Rest days
• Creative moments
• Breakthroughs during Talk Tuesday
• Spending time strategizing with my mentors about life and business

These moments are not “extra”—they are essential.

Your healing journey isn’t just about learning how to manage your emotions. Your healing includes how you organize and live your life – every day.
Time is your most valuable resource, and it’s non-renewable. When you manage it considering your core values FIRST, your entire life will shift.

You’ll become calmer and grounded.
You move through your day with clarity and purpose.
And you become someone who protects their peace like it’s sacred—because it is.

 

My Gift For You

If you’d like some personalized guidance along Your Healing Journey and would like to put these healing strategies into play for yourself and in your life, I’d be delighted to chat.

Please reach out to me privately at yourhealingjourney58@gmail.com OR find me on FB https://www.facebook.com/yourhealingjourneytrishosborne to schedule your complimentary session.

‘Your Healing Journey’ Breakthrough Call.

This is a free virtual call and there’s no obligation for us to work together. We’ll discuss your unique circumstances and what you’d like to overcome and achieve.

By the end of our time together you’ll have:

1.    Crystal Clarity with simple steps and solutions,

2.    Tools and resources to help you move forward confidently, and

3.    A customized Action Plan designed just for you – what to do next to help you on your journey to wellness and healing.

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

 

Trish Osborne is a Certified Integrative Life Coach, Founder of Your Healing Journey, and the Host of a forever-free Facebook Community of the same name.

It’s her mission to help women leave past hurts and traumas in the dust (where they belong), recover from their pain, boldly embrace their unique talents and gifts, and design the life they truly desire - one full of passion and purpose, confidence and freedom.

With a proven, step-by-step process to recovery and life success, Trish offers a customized coaching experience designed with each individual client collaboratively and with a holistic approach to healing the mind, the body and the soul too.

Trish would be delighted if you’d join her free ‘Your Healing Journey’ Facebook Community https://www.facebook.com/groups/yourhealingjourneywithtrish (just request to join) where she shares her best solutions and strategies for living a life full of confidence and joy.